Selected TAO Wisdom Posts
THE INEXPLICABLE AND THE UNCONTROLLABLE
In daily living, try not to explain why certain things happen, or do not happen-especially according to your own wish. Instead, obey and trust your Creator. Without that trust and obedience, there is no good communication, and hence no enlightenment.
After all, you are not in control of your own fate and destiny in this world. Striving to control the uncontrollable is human futility that ends in stress and unhappiness. Humans strive to control anything and everything because they want to create an identity from the attachments created.
If the Creator has no identity, why should you strive to create one for yourself?
An identity is no more than an ego-self that separates and distinguishes you from others-which is essentially pride.
With pride, you see more of yourself and less of others.
With humility, instead of pride, you may see things quite differently: more of the Creator, and less of yourself.
Live your everyday life not just for yourself, but also for others as well. Live a life of love and compassion to become a better and happier individual, being more connected with others. In any life situation, if you have to choose between “being nice” or “being right”, always choose “being nice.”
Look at the following from Lau Tzu’s Tao Te Ching, made up of 81 chapters on human wisdom:
“If His ways could be explained or understood,
the Creator would no longer be infinite.
If He had a name or an identity,
the Creator would no longer be eternal.
Being infinite and eternal,
the Creator is the origin of all things.
Once given a name and an identity,
mankind is only the source of all things.
Ever humble, we see the mysteries of all things created.
Ever proud, we see only the manifestations of all things created.
Only the mysteries, and not the manifestations,
show us the Way to true wisdom.”
(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, chapter 1)
Copyright©2018 by Stephen Lau
TAO WISDOM TO CHANGE PERSPECTIVES
Wellness is feeling good about self with respect to the body, the mind, and the soul. Wellness may be synonymous with happiness. Wellness comes from the mind - the mind’s perceptions of what the body is experiencing in the physical world. Wisdom, surprisingly, can change the mind’s perceptions to make one feel better and happier.
Are you happy? What makes you happy? A successful career, satisfying relationships, good health, or material possessions? Which one, or all of those? No matter what, wellness is what makes you feel good about yourself, and what makes your life meaningful. If your life is without a purpose, and you are always drifting from here to there, you won't feel good about yourself or life in general.
Feeling good about oneself requires wisdom -- wisdom to know who you are and what you want in life. Without wisdom, you will not experience lasting well-being. Without wisdom, your living is like like chasing the wind, without any direction.
Wisdom is essential in the art of living well. It involves wisdom of the mind, the body, and the soul. They are all inter-related and inter-dependent on one another. For example, if you have satisfying relationships but your health is rapidly deteriorating, you will not feel well; or if you have a successful career but are emotionally distressed, you will not be in good spirit. Therefore, the overall wellness is contingent on the holistic wellness of the body, the mind, and the soul. To cherish and nourish this holistic wellness, your need wisdom, which holds the key to happiness and well-being of any individual.
Which is wisdom? Where does it come from?
Wellness begins with the mind first, and not the body or the soul. After all, you are what you have become by reason of your thinking. You are a summary of your thoughts, which make you who you are or what you have now become. Your past experiences and your perceptions of those experiences have "preconditioned" how you currently think. In other words, your background, and upbringing predetermine how your mind perceives your present life experiences. Given that your past exposure might not be telling you the whole truth, you, therefore, need wisdom to "empty" your mind and re-define your current mindset. That is to say, you must learn how to rethink your mind. Thinking is never easy and that is why so few people do it, according to Albert Einstein.
You are living in a physical world, and your life experiences are perceived by your body through the five senses (seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, touching). But these sensations may be positively or negatively interpreted by the mind, which stores past experiences of those sensations of body in both the conscious mind and the subconscious mind. The former voluntarily accepts or rejects those sensations, while the latter involuntarily includes whatever the subconscious mind is exposed to. True wisdom is the capability of the mind to know what is real and what is unreal.
Tao wisdom is the ancient wisdom from China that shows you how to have an empty mind first to rethink your mind in order to separate the truths from the half-truths or myths.
Tao wisdom is the essence in the art of living well, It is the profound wisdom of the ancient Chinese sage, Lao Tzu, the author of the immortal classic Tao Te Ching, one of the most translated works in world literature. The book has been popular for thousands of years due to its wisdom, which is simple but controversial, profound and yet intriguing. To fully understand it, you need to get all the essentials of Tao wisdom.
With Tao wisdom, you may live a much better life, without depressive episodes now and then.
Copyright© 2018 by Stephen Lau
ACCEPING AND EMBRACING PAIN AND ADVERSITY
“Pain is a more terrible lord of mankind than even death itself, and awakens us to a courage and faith unrealized before.” Dr. Albert Schweitzer
Unfortunately, in life, we all have to confront our own adversity and pain that may come in many different forms.
Adversity is like rites of passage, which come in three stages: the separation stage in which you feel separated from your comfort zone; the confusion stage in which you find yourself in no-man’s-land, at a loss of not knowing what to do next; and the transformation stage, in which you may initiate the life changes to cope with the adversity.
Adversity is part and parcel of life. Adversity comes in different phases of life; it only becomes more intense and challenging as aging continues, causing more unhappiness. Aifferent forms. Whether we like it or not, we need to accept and embrace our adversity and pain, and learn valuable lessons from them; paradoxically, they may tell us a meaning.
Look at the following story:
Magda Newman was in labor for 17 hours before giving birth to her first child. Magda and her husband Russel Newman were both shocked and devastated when they found that their son had the rare craniofacial disorder, known as Treacher Collins: he had no cheekbones, no upper and lower eyelids-he was completely disfigured, looking like a monster, instead of a beautiful baby. Treacher Collins is an extremely rare congenital craniofacial disorder that affects an estimated 1 in 50,000 people in the United States.
Most parents have abandoned their newborns afflicted with Treacher Collins. When the Newmans heard the song “Beautiful” sung by Christina Aguilera, the lyrics in the song became a beacon of hope and inspiration for Magda and Russel, and they immediately decided to keep and raise their disfigured son, whom they named “Nathaniel.” His mother said: “We decided he’s going to be beautiful not because of his appearance, but because of his personality. He’s going to be a beautiful person.”
Nathaniel Newman had to undergo many surgeries, not to fix his already disfigured face, but to make him a normal and healthy being; by the time he was 11 years old, Nathaniel had been through 54 surgeries.
Just think about the above story from real life.
Copyright© 2018 by Stephen Lau
TAO WISDOM TO RELIEVE STRESS
We are living in a world of stress, especially in this world of technology, which has created a compulsive mind that brings in all the stress factors.
There are many factors that may directly or indirectly cause stress in everyday human existence, and they are as follows:
Anger, bitterness, disappointment, and envy are some of the human emotions that often lead to anxiety, distress, and even depression.
Environmental and Eventful Factors
A dangerous environment, such as walking alone in the dark or in an unsafe neighborhood, can be stressful.
A work environment with racial discrimination or sexual harassment can be stressful too. According to the American Institute of Stress, up to one million employees’ absence per day are stress related. In addition, work environment may create stress due to feeling unproductive, inability to concentrate on work, unrealistic and unreasonable demands from employers or co-workers.
Stressful life events may also lead to elevated stress levels. Special life events-whether they are positive or negative-can be stressful, such as getting married or planning a wedding, graduation, starting a new job, buying a home, or even going on a vacation.
Finance is one of the main stress factors in contemporary life and living due to rampant unemployment, not having enough money to make both ends meet, debt from credit cards or reckless over-spending, bankruptcy, and home foreclosure, among other financial problems.
The American Academy of Family Physicians once estimated that two-thirds of all family doctor visits are stress related.
Health problems can be triggered by alcohol, sugar, and tobacco addiction. Chronic health problems, such as autoimmune diseases, cancers and heart-related health issues, are particularly stressful after diagnoses and during treatments..
Relationships are often a source of emotional and psychological problems, such as break-up in a love relationship, separation and divorce, dealing with teenager problems, and coping with aging parents.
William Shakespeare once said: “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” John Milton, the famous English poet, also had this to say: “The mind is its own place, and in itself can make Heaven of Hell, a Hell of Heaven.” Both spoke volumes of the perceptions of stress.
The bottom line: stress comes from your mind, or, more specifically, your ego-self. Therefore, no ego, no stress!
NO EGO NO STRESS is a 134-page book by Stephen Lau on ancient human wisdom for stress relief. Specifically, it is about Tao wisdom, which originates from the ancient Chinese sage Lao Tzu, the author of “Tao Te Ching”-- one of the most translated works in world literature. “Tao Te Ching” is popular due to its profound and unconventional wisdom, which is both intriguing and controversial. Learn how to let go of the ego-self to remove all the stressors in modern living due to finance, careers, relationships, etc. and live as if everything is a miracle.
Understanding TAO wisdom may open the doorway to letting go of the ego to let go of stress.
Copyright©2018 by Stephen Lau